Moregasm Tip 1: Don't Be Single-Minded
The first step in plural peaking: Tune in to the mind-body connection. If you go into a hookup with limited expectations of your orgasm, you'll actually cause your body to limit its pleasure responses. In other words, if you assume you can only come once during intercourse...you will.
The reason why understanding your frame of mind is so important? "After you've gotten there for the first time, rather than switching off mentally and sexually — which is what you do when you assume you've reached the finale — you need to remain expectant and open to further arousal," says Dr. Abrams. "It's all about knowing that your body is fully capable, even built, to experience deeper, longer, and more frequent orgasms."
Once you have the right attitude, the next step is making sure that you have some time on your hands. "One of the biggest misconceptions women have about multiple orgasms is that they happen by chance or that they're some sort of fluke," says Dr. Abrams. "But like anything else, they require a little effort and planning that you don't get from on-the-fly quickies." There's just no point in getting mentally geared up for all that extra action if you're not in the right circumstances to be able to enjoy yourself with your man.
And finally, make your guy privy to your mattress mission...kind of. "He won't just get that you're in the mood for something more drawn out," says Dr. Abrams. But rather than putting the heat on him by mentioning the word multiple (can you say "cold sweat"?), deliver your bed buddy a carnal challenge he can get excited about.
"Tell him that tonight you want to feel the slow burn. And to get that, you really want to draw out foreplay, and you have a few ideas for the main event too," says Dr. Abrams. This way, you create a situation where he's not only keen to please, but he's eagerly anticipating your direction too.
