The mysterious G-Spot is no longer such a mystery. And the orgasms that result from a little massage of the G-Spot can be explosive. The G-Spot Orgasm is an orgasm arising from stimulation of the G-spot, an area a few inches inside the vagina, that is deeply connected to the ‘internal’ clitoris. It has been described as a feeling that is close to the intensity of a clitoral orgasm but involving a feeling of “bearing down”, or an urgency to pee. It is this orgasm that has been linked most often to female ejaculation.
Anatomy & Physiology of the G-Spot Orgasm
The G-Spot is the size of a dime and located approximately 1 – 2 inches inside the vagina on the anterior wall (front of the body). Do not look for a precise G-Spot ‘structure’, as the G-Spot is an area that is not really inside the vagina at all, but behind the anterior wall.
Click here to learn more about the Anatomy of the G-Spot
Here's How
Setting the scene: Preparation
Time and Space
Orgasm takes focus. It is essential that you not be distracted. Clear a time/ space that will allow you to relax without being interrupted.
Go to the bathroom first
G-spot stimulation may give you the sensation of having to urinate. Pee first and rid yourself of that worry.
Go solo to start
Masturbation is the easiest way to reach orgasm. This is because you are not distracted by another person. You are able to focus on what you like and won’t get bored or cranky with repetition.
Get sufficiently aroused
Increasing arousal to a high enough point is crucial to orgasm. Sexual arousal causes the G-Spot to swell and become easier to find. It will grow from a dime size (unaroused) to a quarter size (aroused). Use a vibrator, a dildo, or your favorite erotica to get yourself going.
Dedication to pleasure
Remember pleasure is the goal, not orgasm. The ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind. It is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling pressure to orgasm, or guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have sexual pleasure.
Getting Started
Find Your G-Spot
1. Get into a comfy position.
Solo: Position yourself in a comfortable position, where you can easily access your vagina. Squatting is recommended for women to find their own G-Spot.
With a partner: Lie or lean back with your partner sitting between your legs.
2. Use A Finger:
Solo: Start off with a finger, it will allow you to feel the telltale spongy, almost rougher, texture area more easily, compared to the surrounding smoother vaginal wall.
With a partner: Your partner kneels between your legs, angling their finger in a “come hither” position. Have them insert their finger approximately 1-2 inches inside your vagina.
Get the Motion
Firm pressure is the key to stimulating the G-spot.
Come Hither
Press the finger, vibrator, dildo or penis against the G-spot. Use firm circular pressure in a “come hither” motion.
Use a A Dildo
It is important to find a dildo that has a curved and firm end. This allows you to use leverage and firm pressure at a precise angle to help reach this relatively small, sensitive area.
A Penis
Since most penises don’t have the telltale curve to them, you will need to rely on the position to get enough pressure on the G-Spot.
Best positions for G-Spot access
The best positions for accessing your G-Spot are the Reverse Cowgirl where the man is lying on his back and the woman is straddling him, facing away from him and facing towards his feet. Another excellent position is with the woman lying down on her back with her knees bent,. Her partner is kneeling between her legs on the bed and they are facing each other. The man pushes against her knees and uses them as leverage for creating the right angle and pressure.
Explore
Experiment with various levels of pressure, including on the surrounding areas. Focus in on the area that gives you the most pleasure.
Step it up
Quicken your hand or penis motion, or add a G-Spot Vibrator to increase intensity to the G-Spot.
Mental Stimulation
Orgasms don’t happen by physical stimulation alone. In fact, the majority of the orgasm occurs in the mind.
If you are blocked by stress, expectation, negative sexual messages, guilt, fear, or boredom, you could be blocking your orgasm potential.
Use fantasy and mental images. Know what you like and use it to build your arousal to a point where you can reach orgasm. To discover your Arousal Type, click here
Many toys are designed precisely for G-spot orgasms. Choose the type that works best for you.
• G-Spot Vibrator: Lelo's Gigi has a broad, yet firm, head that allows many women to find their G-Spot with ease. Gigi adds vibration to increase the sensation.
• G-Spot Dildo: Look for a firm, yet pliable, dildo with a G-Spot curve to start. Lelo's Ella is a wonderful tool for stimulating exploration.
• G-Spot Stimulating Cream: Several creams and gels have come onto the market that claim to make it easier to find and stimulate the G-Spot. As of now these claims have mostly been unsubstantiated, but we are open to hearing your experience. At Bloom we've chosen a product that we think is the most likely to bring success: try Shunga's Rain of Love G-Spot Arousal Cream.
• Stimulating Lubricant: A long-lasting water-based lubricant that stimulates circulation and arousal, and keeps up with longer periods of exploration. Try the wonderfully arousing Sliquid Organics Sensations Natural Warming Lubricant.
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Try the oral-sex technique “The Screw.” As you're moving up his shaft with your mouth, turn your head a bit from side to side, letting your tongue follow a corkscrew pattern. When you get to the frenulum — that part of the shaft just beneath the head — be sure to lick it for a few seconds before moving all the way up to the top. Then repeat, moving down his shaft. What will drive him wild about this is that you aren't just going up and down — you're also going sideways. It's 3-D! —Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On
The Hot Hula
Instructions: Your guy lies on his back with a pillow propped under his head. Facing him, lower yourself onto his member and put your hands and knees on either side of his torso. Once he’s deep inside you, gently swivel your hips from side to side and, if you want, all around. Your man’s penis glides you, crossing path with your G-spot. Hit it by swiveling down. And since the slow, controlled motions won’t wear you out the way fast, up-and-down thrusts do.
